As many of you know my husband works as a college football video coordinator. He basically pulls coaches hours, and let me tell you, it's hard. It's hard when your husband works 12-14 hour days 7 days a week, is out of town every other weekend, can't go to church with you on Sundays, and this happens for 5 months out of the year. But, that's only during football season. We're not talking about the hours put in during January to get ready for signing day, the hours he puts in during spring practice, or the hours he puts in during high school camps in June. I thank God every day that he is not a coach. Those men are out recruiting on the road several months out of the year, and those wives, well, they're amazing.
I think it takes a special woman to put up with a man who works that much. I never thought I'd be that woman, but somehow when I met DJ, I knew that football would be our life. We even spent our honeymoon at a Bowl Game! I always say I couldn't be married to a man that is in the armed services, because they'd be deployed and gone much more than my husband is. Yet at the same time, I feel like that's sort of the hand I was dealt.
Most of you ladies (and men) look forward to football season. I tend to have mixed emotions of excitement and dread.
So, here's how I attempt to survive the football season every year.
- The girls and I go to my mom's house for a week every August. DJ goes several days without seeing the girls, and it can wear on all of us. Every year, we spend a week with my mom just so they don't have to think about how their daddy is gone all the time. It also allows DJ to work long hours without feeling guilty.
- I don't cook. Well, maybe once a week, because I get tired of peanut butter & jelly sandwiches, but if I cook, it's something I know the girls will love and it may be something DJ hates. He hates having breakfast for dinner, but the girls and I love it. While he's gone, it's the perfect time to treat the girls. Sometimes we even have ice cream for dinner.
- I try to have fun things for the girls to do. With Adalyn being a newborn, these fun things most often include movie nights. We curl up in our pj's and watch a girly kid friendly movie. Gretchen loves having girl nights! We also have nights where we paint our nails, or when DJ's out of town, i'll let Gretchen have a sleep over in my bed. Making memories with the girls, helps keep our mind off daddy being gone.
- When DJ is able to go to church with us, we make it a point to go as a family. It's hard to not want to all sleep in, especially after a late night game, but we take advantage of going to church as a family. Often times, we have to drive separately, because he has to head to the office as soon as church is out, and sometimes he has to sneak out early!
- We have dinner at football about once a week. It gives the girls time to spend with their daddy, and gives DJ a break from cafeteria food. Last year, Monday was family dinner night at football, and the staff had Mexican food brought in. I looked forward to heading up to the office after G's gymnastics, and I didn't have to think about what we were going to eat!
- I take the girls to the game with me. I want them to see where daddy spends all of his time, and I want them to take pride in what he does. They love spending time at football.
- I try to stay organized and keep the girls on a schedule. The girls have bedtime, and we keep it consistent. I feel that if they're on a routine, they'll know what to predict, and they'll be better adjusted.
- We face time. Thank goodness that the girls can see their daddy through the phone or computer and talk to him a bit.
-We watch the games on t.v. If the game is away and on t.v. it's on at our house. We played last Thursday night, and the girls and I popped popcorn, Gretchen did a few cheers, and I attempted to teach Gretchen what offense and defense are, and what it means to get a first down. I want her to have knowledge of the game and to understand what is going on. I didn't acquire this skill until well after I was married to DJ. Someday, her husband is going to appreciate the fact that she may know more about the game than he does!
With everything in life, I have the attitude of you have to do what you have to do. Sometimes, you just suck it up and do it. I'm often asked how, especially know that I have three girls, that I manage to do everything I do, which is the point of this series of blog posts. But, if I don't do it, then who will? It's hard to take the girls to the grocery store or to a birthday party, but I want them to have a normal life, and if I don't take them, no one else will, or no one else will go to the grocery store for me.
As a coaches wife, I know that my husband will be fairly unavailable from August through December. It makes the times that he is home, that he is available, so much better. So much more memorable for our family. I cherish those times that he's home, just like I cherish our time spent at football games cheering on our favorite team.
-We watch the games on t.v. If the game is away and on t.v. it's on at our house. We played last Thursday night, and the girls and I popped popcorn, Gretchen did a few cheers, and I attempted to teach Gretchen what offense and defense are, and what it means to get a first down. I want her to have knowledge of the game and to understand what is going on. I didn't acquire this skill until well after I was married to DJ. Someday, her husband is going to appreciate the fact that she may know more about the game than he does!
With everything in life, I have the attitude of you have to do what you have to do. Sometimes, you just suck it up and do it. I'm often asked how, especially know that I have three girls, that I manage to do everything I do, which is the point of this series of blog posts. But, if I don't do it, then who will? It's hard to take the girls to the grocery store or to a birthday party, but I want them to have a normal life, and if I don't take them, no one else will, or no one else will go to the grocery store for me.
As a coaches wife, I know that my husband will be fairly unavailable from August through December. It makes the times that he is home, that he is available, so much better. So much more memorable for our family. I cherish those times that he's home, just like I cherish our time spent at football games cheering on our favorite team.
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